Secret Spending May Strengthen Relationships. Here’s Why…

The idea is that not telling your partner creates guilt, and feeling guilt leads to an unplanned investment in the relationship.

New research published in the Journal of Consumer Psychology found that “secret spending” by spouses may strengthen the relationship.  The idea is that not telling your partner creates guilt, and feeling guilt leads to an unplanned investment in the relationship. Then, your partner feels closer to you, because you’ve taken an initiative to do nice things.  For example, you stop by a happy hour with some friends on the way home and buy a rounds of drinks but decide not to mention that to your partner.  You feel guilty about it, so you cook dinner, and clean the house.  It could be things like not mentioning a purchase or two, indulging in pizza or fast food, or keeping a little extra cash to yourself.   The study found that this kind of thing is very common. In fact, 100% of the couples in the study were able to recall at least one example.